Let’s be Friends, for now!
Hey ladies, I’m back once again to talk about the things that most of us women think about everyday; our relationships. There’s no hiding that either we are having issues in our current relationships, wanting to get out of our relationships or eager to get into a new one. We just can’t be satisfied sometimes.
This is just a friendly reminder ladies, about how to make your relationship exactly what you want and need it to be. For most of you that want something legitimate or hope that your current relationship flourishes; I say this: Let’s be friends; FIRST!
Yes, you heard me. And no, I don’t mean you and me! I am talking about the guy you are dating or hoping to date.
With this said ladies, I simply want you to forget every guideline you have been taught about being a good girlfriend and a nice take-home-to-mom chick and be your man’s friend for a minute.
Forget about the rules of dating and the endless articles about how-to-dress-on-your-first-date and kick back; let your guy know exactly who you are without the ‘fabrication.’ Remember ladies, a man wants to know he can talk to his woman about anything. He needs to feel comfortable around and with his woman and if you are too caught up in what to wear to lunch or how to impress his mother you may never make it to lunch or not even be mentioned to his mother.
If your relationship flourishes, he would be able to appreciate what you had offered prior to and that is a friendship that sometimes lasts even longer than a relationship.
Think about classmates you went to school with way back when. Sometimes you don’t see them for years but when you finally do it feels like you’re embarking on a whole new friendship; a new bond; a new security net. You feel like all the sweet memories that gave you a reason for living comes rushing back to revive you. It’s a beautiful feeling.
Give your man that feeling when he comes over to take you out to dinner or to the movies. Give him that feeling of security and trust before you move another step into a relationship.
You deserve it and he will appreciate it!
Talk to me
By Aneka Stewart
I can’t deal with this! This is too much! You make me sick! You never listen to me! And the list goes on and on. Ladies it’s that time once again and I know sometimes your guy gets deep under the darkest crevices of your skin. There are times when he can’t get it right and it irritates you like nothing else.
He forgets to call to check up on you, he talks way too much, he doesn’t talk enough!
He is never on time for anything and the fact that he smiles with every female he meets irritates you beyond words. He asks stupid questions and he can’t seem to get that job he said he would have months ago. It’s all too much and somewhere in between being annoyed beyond measure, you have had enough. It can’t seem to get any worst.
So there you are, frustrated, irritated, and ready to vent to your girls about how pathetic he is. About how much ‘he makes me sick’ and how much you wish ‘he would stop doing that’.
But that’s problem number one ladies. Releasing your frustrations to your girl only keeps your problem right where it’s at; in your face, or right in the front of you.
Ladies if you don’t remember anything, remember this: MEN ARE SIMPLE!
If they think something is pink, it is pink! There’s no mauve or dark pink. If you tell him to stop talking so much he will do just that. There’s no ‘I’ll talk to her in the morning because that’s when she’s most receptive.’
And to add, not only are men simple creatures, THEY ARE NOT MIND READERS! There is no way your man can know what he is doing is wrong or annoying unless you say something to him. Whatever he got away with in his past relationship is what he will bring to the relationship he has with you. He sees nothing wrong with it (of course; he’s simple) unless you say something to correct him (because he most definitely cannot read your mind).
Your man just knows one general way of treating you. He is only doing what feels normal. Guide him to being the perfect man for you by letting him know what’s on your mind.
Quit folding your arms and pouting your lips like someone stole something from you. Talk to your man about your needs, your wants, and your pet peeves if the relationship means something to you. Be sincere, be seated; you owe it to him and yourself.
Letting Go
By Aneka Stewart
There’s no hiding that we all have desires. Each and every one of us want something in some shape or form that quenches our thirst for spirituality, love, wealth, sex, family, friendships, etc. We just have to have it! And when we don’t get it our world comes crashing in!
You know what I’m talking about.
1. Trying your hardest to stay on the straight and narrow but tilting and stumbling every few steps along the way
2. Taking yet another shot at dating but he/ she turns out to be the biggest air head known to man.
3. Cheating yourself to save every penny but it’s never enough
4. Giving it yet another shot to come up with ‘risky’ or spontaneous but there is still something weird about the sex
5. Doing what you can to make your family proud but never quite being able to garner their respect
6. Investing time, trust and even money into someone and they turn around and spill your biggest secret, take your man or tell you your dreams are unattainable.
Could it get any worst? And no matter how much we whine and moan about how mad we are about these things falling apart in our lives we have to deal with them. There’s no hiding, no running and eventually you’ll either have to deal with it head on or Let It Go!
Much easier said than done you might say but it’s the only way to liberating one’s self.
1. Every time you think about the mistakes you’ve made that keeps you from your ultimate goal of correcting them.
2. Every time you think about the excruciating first, second and third date you’ve been on that stifles your charm on the fourth date ;).
3. Every time you think about the money you blew it becomes more depressing.
4. Every time you think about how awkward you looked and felt before, during and after sex the more awkward your next experience will be.
5. The more you try to garner the respect of family members the more silly and desperate you look in their eyes.
6. Every time you think about how angry you are with your ‘friend’ the more bitter you become.
I say, Let it Go! Enough is enough! There’s way more to life than crying over the things of the past or the things we cannot change.
‘Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.’ - Oprah Winfrey.
