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As if raging hormones wasn't enough to deal with when growing up, pressure and confusion doesn't make the road any easier. When it comes to sex things can get real complicated. So let's continue our discussion on how to make this road a little less bumpy.

Some time last week I came across the Tribune and on the front page was a gruesome story that not only shocked me, but scared me out of my whits! It was a story about an influx in young girls being pregnant; and this was not one of those teenage pregnancy stories, this time it was about 10 year old girls being pregnant!

Yes- 10 years old! With some cases being the cause of incest!

I strongly believe that sex is taboo in our country and it's hard to talk about it when everyone is shying away. So I'm here to do my part. Let's talk about SEX, it's misconceptions, information and everything in between. The Next 7 post will be geared towards sex and everything I think every young adult should consider when making that next step. Hopefully some of this information can be useful to grown people as well.

In my last post I talked about the importance of communication when the thought of sex comes about and now I want to hit on one of the most crucial things to consider and that is choosing the right partner.

A lot of people have horror stories when it comes to their first sexual experience so I decided to talk to those people myself. I conducted a survey, asking 20 males and 20 females, between the ages of 18 and 35, if they regret who they shared their first sexual experience with and here are the results.

10/ 20 females said they regret who they shared their first sexual experience with and 10/ 20 said they did not regret who they shared their first experience with. I thought those numbers must have been coincidence so I chatted with the guys for a bit and the numbers were a little different.

7/ 20 males said they regret who they shared their first sexual experience with and 13/ 20 said they don't regret who they shared their first experience with.

The most interesting part about this survey was the conversations that followed. Quite a few were horror stories but for the young people that said they regretted who they shared their first experience with they stated that simply thinking you love someone is not enough. You should be sure that you know that person well. Sex should not be handled lightly as there are lots of emotions involved so be sure to guard your feelings and your body.



Having sex ties you to someone emotionally and if that person decides that those feelings no longer exist you will be heartbroken in the end and no one wants a broken heart.

'In society, women are taught that when they have sex for the first time they are loosing something or giving of themselves but men are taught that they are getting a piece or gaining something' , said John Doe (32). That explained the casual responses I got from the males. Most of them laughed about the matter and commended themselves for such an 'achievement' when most of the young ladies answered with bitter tones with resentment at the tip of their tongues.



Whenever you decide that it is the right time to have sex be sure it is with someone you know well. Talk about everything. Do you plan on staying together? Are you planning on using a condom? Is this the right time? Do you care about me? and the list goes on. If it's on your mind speak up. This first experience will stay with you for the rest of your life.

Remember, choosing the wrong partner can leave you pregnant for a stoner with no future of with an STD or even HIV.